Not too long ago (ok. It was a while ago) I wrote a post about my guy friends. Entitled “boy friend“, I asked why can’t it be the social norm for guys and girls to just be friends.
It was inspired by my growing friendship with my one coworker–a really cool guy who I would stay up late snapchatting because we had a lot in common and therefore a lot to talk about. I had been starting to develop a crush on him, but I wasn’t certain if it was romantic or platonic. But one thing was for sure, I loved him as a friend, and even though we had only been talking for a week, I was willing to call him my best friend.
When writing my post, I remembered every time someone has insisted me and a guy friend should be together, which fueled my rant.
But not too long after writing that post, everything changed. I was convinced I no longer had any feelings for my friend besides the ones of friendship, but when he told me he liked me as more than a friend, I realised I had been lying to myself.
Now, after over three months of dating my best friend, I’ve looked back to see if I would change anything that I said in that post. To tell you the truth, I won’t change it. I meant everything I said. Nothing should be inherently romantic about guys and girls being friends, just like there isn’t anything inherently romantic about girls and girls or guys and guys being friends.
However, there’s one thing I must add. There’s nothing wrong if that ever changes and romance replaces the platonic.
After all, I wouldn’t have a boyfriend if I didn’t at first have a boy friend.